Originally Posted By: whatdidido
It sounds like you are saying that you are going to act divorced but stay married and live in the same house. I think I may have missed something.?????


Well kind a sort a WDID,

Basically I was thinking of a slow divorce. Just civilly start separating our stuff. And live like we have been until we do dicide to divorce. but I will no longer be committed

BUT.........................................................

Wife is not taking the bait. She is continuing making dinner and calling me to come eat. She is eating at the dinner table with me. She has been doing the laundry everything. She told me about a B-day party for her aunt if I wanted to go......Like I said before I think she is in the "watch out what you wish for because it may come true" world.
I gave her the note this morning about her moving out of son's room and about the master bedroom will be "my space". She has not said anything about it. I was going to say something about it tonight but I decided to wait until tomorrow to let it sink in a little more.
Today was weird. I mean the weather here was 78 degrees. It was like summer. I went over MIL house to work in her yard and got her to come outside and sit. I think this is the first time MIL was outside in months. When I got back home I kept the "as if" attitude and just did my own thing. I told wife when I left and actually did tell her where I was going but it was no big deal.
I really do think reality is sinking in to wife; the only thing I am afraid of is if she decided to give it one more chance I want it to be because she wants to. I would not want her to stay just because of son, or losing the house or what ever.
I told her that I wanted to go to her aunt’s party but I did not tell her I think I will drive myself. She does not like to drive in the dark so if it goes on late that is something she will need to get used to. Besides unstopping a toilet...

Have a great night

Dr Love

told ya saffie it's not over until it's over.... or is that until the fat lady sings?

Last edited by Dr LOve; 01/13/09 03:09 AM.
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