Okay. Just thinking but feel free to 2x4 if you want.
H refuses to go to counseling because nothing is wrong with him. Which I think is funny, because counseling is not about there being something wrong with you, it's about learning how to do things better. So he refuses. By refusing to go, is he determined to sabotage the relationship. If he's not willing to do or try something different, he is willing to condemn us to do again the things we have done in the past. Does that make sense? It means he's not willing to grow as a person. He is willing to always do what he always did and therefore so must I. I wonder if he wants to do nothing or not change so that I can make the same mistake again and then he can keep drinking and being the victim. As long as he refuses to try something different or grow as a person, expand his horizons, whatever you want to call it, it means he is happy with the status quo. He is happy with my track record and not willing to look inside himself for change because it is all my fault anyway.
Does any of that make sense? It's like he's setting me up to fail.
Mel
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
