what if the answer is there is no answer? That you are to live with the ambiguity of not knowing? Gilda Radner, the comedian who died of cancer, wrote about it in her autobiography. She said she didn't know how to live not knowing if the cancer would come back, or if she should just go on living as if....and eventually she realized she had to deal with the fact that we all face ambiguity in life; it's inherent in life. Tomorrow is promised to no one.
So, she said to "embrace the ambiguity" and live with it, as well as you can. And be in the now. Not fearing the future, and not rehashing the unchangeable past.
I think that the 'embrace' comment, was the last entry in her autobiography before she died. Anyhow, food for thought. j-
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