W's out and has openly announced OM to all

[Babygirl]

hey tom, checking in, sounds like you are handling things well! glad you had a good nye with the kids.
hope all is well with you.

[Little Engine]

mC--Looks like you and I are in the same spot posting wise. Not much new for me. My S talks my ear off about Star Wars and sports stuff. I am ready to nickname him "Replay" because he spends half the time on the phone recounting something he has seen in a football or basketball game. Hopefully your W will continue her interest in connecting with the kids. How goes the legal part of life?

[marriedCrazy]

LE..not much to say about the legal part but I'm ready to start processing after tonight.

The W and I had an agreement that the kids would not meet the OM until after the divorce. She took it upon herself to bring OM out to my house while dropping off the kids after their first overnight at her apartment. To say the least I'm extremely pi$$ed off!!

[lost_in_space]

Hey MC. Looks like a lot of us are in relatively the same boat. Not much posting happening cuz not much new.

Stay strong bud.

[Tawnya]

Ugh{{{{{{{{{Tom}}}}}}}}} I know you are MAD as a hornet my friend about that OM thing!! Argh..why do they totally think that's ok?? When I was trying to explain that to my hub it was like "what is so wrong with that"? Sigh...

Hope you are doing ok this evening

Tawnya

[marriedCrazy]

So not only was he at my house while she was dropping the kids off; but tonight my son tells me he was there on Fri. night until Midnight and there first thing in the morning. I really wonder if he stayed all night. S says no; but he may not have known. S told me that OM gave him some old Star Wars toys.

D hasn't mentioned him at all.

I asked S what he thought about OM and he didn't have an answer.

W and I were supposed to file a joint BK; but couple the new events with the shady financial stuff she was proposing right before the BK and I really feel that I want to file D first. Then I can worry about MY finances without her being intertwined.

[kat727]

You can file by yourself without her anyway. At least that is my understanding. Ex didn't give a flying fig that he was supposed to pay stuff according to the court. He filed B and then everything with my name on it defaulted to me! Yuck! Good luck with that stuff.

kat

[whatdidido]

It makes me sick to my stomach to hear this happening in people's situations. So selfish on her part to do this to her kids. There is no benefit to the kids having this OM part of their lives when their parents are in the midst of a divorce. It is confusing to them. She should be ashamed of herself. I'm so sorry MC.

[Tawnya]

Ugh {{{Tom}}} I think that's all I've said to you the last 2 days..HOW have you handled THAT without blowing a gasket?? Besides that you are Mr Cool and Wonderful that is? I hate so much for that stuff to be happening, you totally don't deserve it!

Tawnya

[mishka422]

I feel your pain Tom. Honestly, I know it all too well. My XH had our son around the broom 6 months before he dropped the bomb. She was a "friend" from work who had been through an ugly divorce (6 years ago - he made it sound recent) and just needed a buddy to help her do some stuff with her son. Since my son was along I wasn't threatened by it - Um.....duh! Can you say stupid, trusting fool? Since he left us he has seen no problem with having our son around OW long before the D was final, doing everything together like a "happy little family", it's all quite normal to someone who has absolutely no moral values whatsoever. Sorry you are experiencing the same thing.

Do yourself a favor, don't ask what the kids think of OM. That would put them in a position to lie to save your feelings. Try to be content with the example your are setting for your kids of an upstanding, honest man of God. Be the bigger person Tom. We all know you're 'da bomb!!!!!!