OK, H emailed me this: while i am glad you brought that up S15 getting medicated in front of me today it is disturbing you talked to his doctors and did not include me. i am heartened to here that his primary physician doesn't think its a good idea. i think we have been way to quickk to medicate.
S15 is just pushing your buttons Re the divorce. the fact that you talked so much about the adultery just let him know he can bug you with it. the past is the past don't beat yourself up over talking/yelling about it in front of them. at least you don't do it anymore. i hope with the passage of time you have been able to see that our marriage was very dysfunctional and we were bound to get a divorce. it was just irreparably screwed up, it has nothing to do with anyone else. OK, this is my response. Do you think this is ok or any changes?
I mentioned his depression to his doctor at his last appt. She asked about any concerns re: S15 and I felt that was a concern that I should mention. No new info to tell you re: his depression or I would have emailed you with it. I ask the therapist about once a month or so how the kids are doing and check in with her. You may want to call her and do the same--her number is ...... I don't feel we were quick to medicate in D9's case. D9 was screaming/crying about 8 hours a day from birth to age 4 so I think waiting 4 years was not quick imo and I guess you've blocked how difficult that period was for us all.
S15 is having moderate depression according to the therapist, and that seems about right to me. It's probably normal as you said going through what he is, but I certainly want to keep an eye on that. As you mentioned, I don't beat myself up talking or yelling about it in front of them and actually don't really talk about you with them other than I always make sure they know when you are visiting and info like that. I was seriously depressed, esp. the last year or so before you moved out & certainly needed treatment and to work on myself, and have done that, and you had some issues also. Maybe counseling wouldn't have helped our marriage like it did me personally though, you may be right. Karen
