Why? Is she angry? She claims that she never liked sex. Looking back, I can buy that. I didn't know enough to realize it.
I think she doesn't like men. Which is not to say that she likes women, just that she doesn't like men. She is angry about just about everything that I have done, or haven't done for the last 25 years. And she can remember and recite it all. housework, child disciple, support of her hobbies, or schooling, or work. All of it. I used to think that she had valid points. And perhaps some of them are. But as time has gone on, I can see that a lot of them were a smokescreen. So, all of these years I thought I was the "problem". But, that's not it. I'm sure of it now. Which isn't to say that she is the whole problem either, but she has a part to play, and she has never come close to recognizing that.
I've been 180ing, especially as far as taking care of myself. And I think I have been doing better with the kids.
It might be advantageous to have her in the house, but we are not even close to piecing, so it doesn't feel at all advantageous. It "feels" more like it gives her exacly what she wants (security, and the ability to see eveyone of my missteps, so she can justify herself).
