I agree with what oldtimer said about your children can benefit.

BUT, this is an ongoing goal, so they will be learning throughout your life as you move forward, not just from the past.

It is important that if your XH does not show them what a father is suppose to be, then you must find a male figure that CAN show them what a man is to be, maybe your dad, or your brother, just someone.

I'm glad that you are seeing the light, and I know that you feel you screwed it all up, but be thankful that you are seeing. So many of us, and I'm sure this includes your XH like OT said, will ride in the dark and never poke their head out. You are so much further now that you are seeing in the light. Not all of us poke our heads out at the same time. Some are sooner and some are later. You've learned a great deal and with that, you will be able to help so many, and you will be able to make a great life for yourself.

Let God lead you and you will never go wrong.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."