I had to re read, and read. Hum, erm, how about that, a united parental force! Just what an unsuspecting 14 year old that does not have the concept of time and responsibility doesn't need, argh, parents! Nicely handled (both of you)./
Thanks GB, we've always tried to parent together, even at the worst of times. D14 pulled another one yesterday, her mother collects a certain portion of the children's allowance to put away for their long term spending. This is to help them save for items they may want that cost a lot e.g. ipod or something similar. We both pay allowance on the weeks the kids stay with us but STBX collects the savings from the kids. D14 says "you're always chasing us for money, Dad never does" So once more Dad is the good guy and STBX the bad guy, even though the money is theirs and the reason for collecting it has been discussed with them. We also expect them to pay us back for items we purchase at their request which we don't deem necessities e.g. D14's makeup etc. So STBX phones me and tells me this is what D is saying that I never collect money from them for things I purchase for them. I told STBX that this is not true, sometimes I do choose not to collect for things I've bought them but only if they did not request those things or I may forget once in a while but I do collect for items I purchase for them. We agreed that in future I would collect the long term savings money from them when they stay at my place and she would do the same when they stay at hers. This way they see that both of us are actively participating in the collecting of money on a regular basis. Ahh yes, teenagers. STBX says "I may have overreacted when she said this to me" which would also be par for the course. STBX just can't walk away when a button is pushed and she makes it so damn easy for D14, at some point D has to get bored with it cuz it's just like shooting ducks in a pond, where's the challenge? I told STBX just to be careful in responding to her because "you know how much she loves to push buttons and twist things". So once business was finished STBX actually asked me how I was feeling as I've had a miserable cold the past few days. She then said "you sound a lot better than you did this morning, I hope you feel better soon" Whew, in 17 years of marriage I can only remember getting any kind of empathy when ill about twice! So, that was a welcome surprise. So that's it from the separated parenting front...for today at least.
You know, maybe you guys are better off apart than together. Don't kids love to play one off against another ... they do that even when their parents are together.
Good job, Wii!!!!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
You might have a point there, Being Me. The fact that we're not in each others faces all the time may actually be a benefit here, especially in dealing with each other around the kids. Tonight was D14's birthday celebration and she is now D15! We went out as a family to a restaurant D likes and returned to STBX's to open presents and blow out the candles. Once more, it was a wonderful family night. I was telling a co-worker today of our plans for this evening and she laughed saying "I don't know why you two separated, you spend more time together now then you did when you were together!" Hey, and it's almost time to celebrate Chinese New Years , and then it will be Valentines Day...it just never ends.
Well, I just returned from bible study. I'm learning a lot of really good stuff that will benefit future R's. I've learned that men should stop listening to women! Let's face it, Adam listened to Eve and got them booted out of the Garden of Eden. I think that although God told him that they would die if they ate from the tree, he figured death would be preferable to listening to Eve nag him endlessly about not eating his fruit. So, in order to get the woman off his back he risked the wrath of God Almighty. That is one whipped man! Next take a close look at Abraham when Sara told him to go play hide the sausage with her servant, the fool actually went ahead and did it! How the heck did he figure this could turn out OK? He can't even say "it just happened". Loooooser! So, the lesson to be learned here is either that men should stop listening to women or that men are just plain stupid...take your pick. I can't decide, I guess I'll have to wait till next week to get the answer. Later Dbers.
Well, I just returned from bible study. I'm learning a lot of really good stuff that will benefit future R's. I've learned that men should stop listening to women! Let's face it, Adam listened to Eve and got them booted out of the Garden of Eden. I think that although God told him that they would die if they ate from the tree, he figured death would be preferable to listening to Eve nag him endlessly about not eating his fruit. So, in order to get the woman off his back he risked the wrath of God Almighty. That is one whipped man! Next take a close look at Abraham when Sara told him to go play hide the sausage with her servant, the fool actually went ahead and did it! How the heck did he figure this could turn out OK? He can't even say "it just happened". Loooooser! So, the lesson to be learned here is either that men should stop listening to women or that men are just plain stupid...take your pick. I can't decide, I guess I'll have to wait till next week to get the answer. Later Dbers.
Hey, come to think of it, wasn't it Mrs. Noah that stopped at the Liquor Store just before boarding the ark? Hmm.
I told STBX just to be careful in responding to her because "you know how much she loves to push buttons and twist things". So once business was finished STBX actually asked me how I was feeling as I've had a miserable cold the past few days. She then said "you sound a lot better than you did this morning, I hope you feel better soon" Whew, in 17 years of marriage I can only remember getting any kind of empathy when ill about twice! So, that was a welcome surprise. So that's it from the separated parenting front...for today at least.
