Forrest I cant answer to your post. Sorry. There isnt much to say anyway. Only this:sometimes it is easy to see what we SHOULD Do, but doing it is much more difficult. YOu are asking me to stay detached and use tools that have some results. Well, I havent yet figured out what works with him.
He never responded to the letter. I read it again today and saw -since I am pretty calm now- that it was a letter I should have written here. Just to vent. It was full of obvious and hidden accusations. Nothing unfair or extremely mean, but it was straight forward and reading it made me sad.
So, I sent another one today. It was separated in paragraphs. Each paragraph was something I want and need, explanations and in a few cases possible solutions/examples. Among others I explained my need about the truth and what I expect to hear from him :start of the affair, duration, how, when, why, the end, why end, when etc. I explained in detail the symbolism of his actions to me and how important it is to me. This letter felt much better.
He called after I texted him around 15:30 and said he had read both and was soft and joking with me. Everytime I "say" it's over, he seems to soften up. At the last letter I finished saying I am now stopping with letters, urging him to read, think and act. I also asked him to TALK to me and make sure I understand his point of view. And that it would be a shame to miss this second chance since we got here.
We'll see, I keep my eyes open and hope to see somekind of progress... K
