Puppy, you know I wouldn't be making it through this without you. Even if I don't always take your advice, know that I am always taking it in serious consideration.
Snow White, this is what I fear. I don't want to end up feeling used. I'm not sure I can keep feelings out of it, hence the struggle.
newgal, sexy txt msgs sounds like a good idea. Not sure where to start since I haven't done that in years. We used to send flirty emails, don't know when/why they stopped. mdoodles, thanks for your perspective. BF keeps saying it is not PA with OW, and if that is the case, I don't want him to start that. It's good to see that other people are in the same situation.
WIT, thanks for the ideas and book suggestion. Will head to the library today to pick up Passionate Marriage and Surviving an Affair. I have Not Just Friends but found it too painful when I started reading it. That was a while ago so I'll have to give it another try. I know that we both contributed to our problems, but I do feel that the sex issues were mostly my fault. BF did bring it up once several years ago and I blew him off, basically telling him take it or leave it. He sucked it up and never mentioned it again until dropping the bomb. Of course now that I know how much it hurt him and how serious a problem it is I want to do what I can to show him I understand, he's right to be unhappy and I am willing and ready to change.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
