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[hoosiermama]

I'm thinking of sending the letters to his parents and brother during the time he'll be gone in February. I don't know what their response will be, but I am certain that once he finds out he'll be furious with me. So maybe allowing them time to absorb it and perhaps respond to me before he can respond to them might be a good idea.

I think that is a very wise idea.

Sorry for the slow response, Hoozh -- yesterday was D20's birthday, and I was slammed.

Puppy

Hey, that's okay Pup. Happy birthday to D20!

[hoosiermama]

Hi HM..
sorry i missed your thread when I was cruising around here late last night.

I likehow your thinking process works... your thoughts & actions are tinged with respect, yet care and compassion for yourself & D. You are trying to see the effect on your H and while not necessarily let that affect your actions, it is within your line of sight & you are not being oblivious to how your actions are/could affect him.

I LOVE hand made jewelry.. a dear friends daughter has made some for me in the past. I would be very interested in some if you decided to make a go of it???

hugs to you
Bridge

Thanks, Bridge. I appreciate it.

[hoosiermama]

You go to all the trouble of spending years adjusting your attitude to accommodate all of your in-laws' quirks and irritating behaviors, and then discover that if your M is dissolving, they will take sides against you.

Yes! They are a very high-maintenance FIL and MIL. They will undoubtedly take his side, and that's okay. As long as they have the whole picture, they can view it through whatever lenses they like. The main point of my letter would be to express my sorrow in the end of the relationship(s), with just a mention of H's choice to reconnect with OW. I don't expect it to accomplish anything, except perhaps to help me to move on.

[hoosiermama]

thanks, cookie.

[Andabelle]

How about little rosary chaplet bracelets? Maybe you can sell them at church?

[hoosiermama]

not a bad idea. probably can't sell them at church, but I know they might be popular online.

[breakaway]

Hey you...I didn't know this was here. You're not invisible, you were just behind a post or something. LOL.

HUGS!!!!!!!!!

I'm getting yelled for as we speak, just wanted you to know I found your thread.

[hoosiermama]

thanks, b! I'm feeling less invisible these days.

Serendipitously reconnected with an old friend yesterday, and it was as if 25 years never passed. As you know, connection is a big current issue with me.

And imagine this--he's 8 months into divorce as well. What a coincidence.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Hmmmmmmmmm . . .

[Andabelle]

Is he someone you could see yourself getting involved with (when you're sufficiently healed, that is)?

Quelle coinkydink.