For me the abandonment of hope is a gradual process, but one that picks up steam as days roll by. You aren't even 3 months divorced yet, so it is still very early. I guess I'm coming up on 7 months since D-date here in a few but I tend to mark my journey as beginning the day I moved out. There was no doubt as to the path she was on.
For you it was the ability to talk, for me it was the "feel" when I held her, so it was physical. In the 14 months since I've moved out there has been no one that "feels" as "right" as she once did. Now I've held some women with SMOKIN bodies in that time, much nicer than hers, so I know it isn't a physical characteristic. They sure ought to feel "right"! For you, I imagine you will meet women who have the capability to "talk" with you so the missing ingredient must be on your end. This is what I mean by the missing heart.
At first I thought I was heartbroken, heck that still might be it, not sure but don’t like the classification. I like to think of it in terms that I gave my heart away a long time ago. She had it and decided she didn't want it. Whether it is still with her or just off on an extended vacation, I'm not sure. I just know that there is something missing from me. I'm not broken, I'm not dysfunctional, I'm not heartless, I'm just not "back" to where I once was. However, I don't worry that I won't get my heart back I just know that I need to wait a while. I know that I need to get it back before I can give it away again. I like to think of it as Nature's way of protecting me from making any mistakes.
Now instead of being upset about this like I was about a year ago, I’ve learned to relish this time. It sure makes my life simpler, which is good! I don’t worry about being in a relationship and I refuse to pretend in order to be in one. I know that I am getting myself together and that I’m going through what I am supposed to be going through. I don’t burn bridges with new women I meet and I don’t “play” any of them. I don’t ask any of them to try on the glass slipper anymore. I figure that someday I’ll look down and either someone I’ve already met, or someone I’ve yet to meet, will be wearing it. I’d like to think that is the proper attitude and I would hope that it would work for you as well.
For you, I imagine you will meet women who have the capability to "talk" with you so the missing ingredient must be on your end. This is what I mean by the missing heart.