Good to hear from you. You shouldn't feel bad about not moving along as quickly as XW. I think the gift was for herself - to make herself feel less guilty. I suspect she feels bad for hurting you, but not enough to change herself. Just remember, she checked out of your R before you did. It was a decision she made consciously, it wasn't thrust upon her unexpectedly. It's no wonder that she is further along than you in the process. But it is not a race.
I found out right before Christmas that my XW (1st M) is getting remarried. I have no romantic feelings for her any longer, but after being married 13 years, I would lie if I said it didn't stir up ANY emotions. It sounds like you are doing well, my friend.
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