Two WAS's- is it really meant to be or walk away?

[Trixi]

Hmmm...I wonder if people read my posts the way I read yours? Like my first thought was "Why would someone like L_L want to go back to someone that is clearly an addict? What is she thinking?! She can do so much better!"

I know that your parents have been married for a long time, but I am wondering if there was any alcoholism in your family when you were growing up? (Just sort of curious because I know that in my case, there were addictions and it has made it difficult for me to fully stand up and be counted and not just take crumbs or "try harder" to keep the peace....I see some of that in you.)

So, let me ask you this- in his CURRENT condition- is this man good enough for you?
Is he good enough to move 2000 miles for?
Is he the sort of partner that you should move out of an area you love and flourish in? Would you still be able to flourish in WI?
(Believe me, I see how hypocritical I am being when I ask those questions of you.)
Are you *really* wanting to go back to a situation where music is number 1? Where he thinks he has no substance abuse problem? Where you have to deal with his bi-polar'ism? (OH! maybe that's it (regarding the alcoholism question) maybe you have been with him for so long in your young adult life that you have ended up in a dynamic that is like alcoholism. I haven't been with someone bi-polar, but growing up in a household where there was substance abuse, I had to learn to be VERY sensitive to the moods of the house so I would know when to be invisible/not cause trouble and when it was 'safe' to ask for things. Is it the same with someone that is bi-polar? Do you need to "watch" carefully to try to anticipate their mood and then act/react accordingly?)

Is that okay with you that he flirts online?

Okay- I've asked a lot of questions-looking forward to your answers.