"the opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference."
Yes THis is also where I need to get.I am kind of there but I have slipups. I think you are both right. The only thing Sara is I would not be doing it to MAKE her love me. This will not work. I AM hoping she may see it is best for our son if we keep tring. I am not saying just stay togeather for him. but actualy work on our marriage for him / Us
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Ok get this, I had to log on before son and I left. As most of you know I lost one leg in a car accident. I take off my prosthetic leg at night when I go to bed. Anyway last night I went to bed. I got up about 2:00am to go to the bathroom. Apparently Wife clogged the toilet sometime and what she does is leave the plunger in the toilet and then usually tells me. Well last night at 2:00am here I am on one leg needing to go to the bathroom and when I get there the plunger is in the toilet. Do you have any idea how hard it is to use a plunger standing on one leg when ya got ta pee?. So today I said to wife. "I had to go to the bathroom last night. It would have been nice if you would have let me know the toilet was plugged." She said "I put the plunger in it" I said "I did not go in there before bed how was I supposed to know?" Wife: "It's not my fault when you are not around to tell; what I am I supposed to do leave a note?" Me "Ya that would be nice" and I left Ok I have the camper loaded up so I will not be back on until sometime Sunday. I hope all of you have a great weekend. One more thing.....does any of you also think that our spouse’s bodies were taken over by some "pod people?
Dr Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
"I'm sorry it has come to this. I do think it is awful that after years of marriage, she would just say that she has no feelings for you. But that is what they say, "the opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference."
So this is like DBing against a suicide bomber right?
Originally Posted By: Sara
doc,
I'm sorry it has come to this. I do think it is awful that after years of marriage, she would just say that she has no feelings for you. But that is what they say, "the opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference." And that's what you've got there. I think if you are hoping that something you do will motivate her to feel love for you, you are whistling "Dixie" (another thing they say). I think she told you the truth. She has no feelings for you. If you want love, you will have to look somewhere else.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
There is no genetic reason why a woman cannot plunge a toilet. She will need to do it when she is divorced. She may as well learn now. boy would my husband laugh at me if I suggested that he plunge the toilet when I clogged it!
to be honest son may have stopped it up but still...
Ok so as I said I forgot to leave the note out for wife. I will leave it out in the morning. But.....
son said on the way home that he would like to do this everyother weekend. I guess he told wife this. SHe came to me and said son had said that and informed me that she was planning on going "camping" with her cousin and her best freiend on the 20th. I am going to ask her if she is planning on telling them about our separation that night.
Later Dr Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
It sounds like you are saying that you are going to act divorced but stay married and live in the same house. I think I may have missed something.?????
It sounds like you are saying that you are going to act divorced but stay married and live in the same house. I think I may have missed something.?????
Well kind a sort a WDID,
Basically I was thinking of a slow divorce. Just civilly start separating our stuff. And live like we have been until we do dicide to divorce. but I will no longer be committed
Wife is not taking the bait. She is continuing making dinner and calling me to come eat. She is eating at the dinner table with me. She has been doing the laundry everything. She told me about a B-day party for her aunt if I wanted to go......Like I said before I think she is in the "watch out what you wish for because it may come true" world. I gave her the note this morning about her moving out of son's room and about the master bedroom will be "my space". She has not said anything about it. I was going to say something about it tonight but I decided to wait until tomorrow to let it sink in a little more. Today was weird. I mean the weather here was 78 degrees. It was like summer. I went over MIL house to work in her yard and got her to come outside and sit. I think this is the first time MIL was outside in months. When I got back home I kept the "as if" attitude and just did my own thing. I told wife when I left and actually did tell her where I was going but it was no big deal. I really do think reality is sinking in to wife; the only thing I am afraid of is if she decided to give it one more chance I want it to be because she wants to. I would not want her to stay just because of son, or losing the house or what ever. I told her that I wanted to go to her aunt’s party but I did not tell her I think I will drive myself. She does not like to drive in the dark so if it goes on late that is something she will need to get used to. Besides unstopping a toilet...
Have a great night
Dr Love
told ya saffie it's not over until it's over.... or is that until the fat lady sings?
Last edited by Dr LOve; 01/13/0903:09 AM.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
"the opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference." 