Hi, thanks to everyone who has been so kind as to give me advice these past couple weeks. I have decided I need to have "the talk" with H this week. I can no longer live in limboland and do and say nothing while he lives his single life when he wants and family life when he wants. Especially because when we are together, WE ARE NOT TOGETHER. The fact of the matter is, while we have spent more time together (as a family, not a couple), these past few months we are still drifting apart. It is so sad it has come to this.
I pray I am prepared for this. I hope I am. I made my decision to do this a while ago, and I still feel it is the right decision for all involved. As a woman fighting for my marriage, the time has come to let him go. Me sitting back and letting him flounder when clearly his feelings are not there, is not doing either of us any favors and is only slowly destroying trust and respect, and feelings on both sides.
Please, to those who have been here, who have been strong enough to let them go and stand by your decision, can you share your experience? When you chose to have the conversation, what did you say, how were your words taken, etc?
Even though I am ready, I am really scared to have this talk.
This hurts so much and is so sad. How someone can someone once love you so much, and tthen become so indifferent towards you. The pain of being unloved and unwanted just STINKS. Thank you very much.
