Two WAS's- is it really meant to be or walk away?

[Loving_Life]

Thinking about what I have done and anything new I can try...

-Done a lot of GAL, and stbx knows it. He showed a little curiousity/jealousy when we talked on the phone a couple mo ago. However, now that he is contacting me less- there are less chances to show it. It's possible my myspace pics could get a reaction, we'll see. Could drop more new life/mystery hints in our emails, possibly get flirty but not directly to him, just showing I'm "fun"

-LRT, going dark- done a lot of this- I think it has made him think about our R and share his thoughts. He admitted he thought I might have OM back in october, and he felt curious and rejected. (Then he said I made him feel better by showing my interest in him, but this helped him "move on" and he didn't want an R-so I went dark again) Another author I read mentioned men can be motivated by loss and voids. I moved away 2,000 miles and he hasn't seen me in almost 6 months. That's a huge void/loss. We've never been apart like this in our whole 15 yrs together. When I don't respond to every email, he starts emailing more. No phone calls since October though. I told him I didn't want to be 'friends' if we got a D. Part of me wonders did I discourage him from calling me anymore then or was it good that I was standing up for myself?

-Compliments- In most conversations since our S, I make sure to admire something he did or compliment/thank him for something he did. Seems to make him more friendly, but 'amicable D' friendly. If it seems like I'm interested in him too closely, he might brag a little, but usually backs off more. In the emails lately, he just doesn't respond to personal comments and tries to keep it mostly "business"

-Listening/understanding his point of view- Have done a lot of this. He shared a lot of feelings a couple months ago, and was glad I could understand. He feels relieved I understand. I think he thinks he's done with sharing now, he said what he had to say already. It's working well for me to understand him in the final settlement progress, we're basically having an "amicable" agreement on things.

Additional thoughts...the last time we were S, I moved back in w. him as a roommate b/c I needed a place to stay (then we got closer again over the next few mo.) We were also in much closer contact during that S, he called me every other day for 5 months straight. This time, I'm long distance, so that isn't an option and he's no longer calling. I don't know, maybe it is time to move on.

He claims there is no OW, and does not want any woman. It could be that yes, he is this withdrawn to protect himself and 'move on'. Stbx is famous for putting up an ice cold wall toward people. Or he could be lying, it's hard to know when I'm so far away... I think there are w he flirts with online, but he's also been into that for years.