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[Dawn of Hope]

Hi, Hooz,
I don't have much advice, but I am reading along and thinking of you. I am a little wary about the possible effect of informing your H's family about his...activities, since so many people here have had negative results from telling their in-laws. It's got to be rough for you, though, since you don't have any other family. You go to all the trouble of spending years adjusting your attitude to accommodate all of your in-laws' quirks and irritating behaviors, and then discover that if your M is dissolving, they will take sides against you. Yeah, it hurts not to be valued for yourself.

I know that during Christmas of 2007, when we were with H's family, only a couple of months post-bomb, I did my best to cherish the time I had with them, without being obvious about it, because I kept thinking that I might never see them again. Well, that was the last time I saw most of them, and I probably never will again unless H and I are lucky enough to have a restored M. I think most of them probably still don't know things are bad between H and me, much less that he's been cheating on me for a year and a half and has now moved out.

Oops, sorry for the hijack, got carried away.

I sure wish we could wave our little wands and magically fix everything! Who cares what lessons we "should" be learning through the process?!

Take care of yourself.

Peace and blessings,
Dawn