The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Oh MY Goodness!!!! I never thought he'd come today. Maybe he has finished thi nking and got something to say--the talk. Everything is crossed for you MWG, tryin to have no expectations on your behalf but it is a full moon and somehow I do have expectations.
That makes two of us...I didn't think he would show up either, but the addiction of your home, family, etc., is a strong pull. He must have gotten over his stomach woes for him to venture over.
Here's hoping it will be a good evening and if he wants to "talk", listen and validate.
Good luck!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I was watching the game and he came in and sat and watched it as well.
THen I went and ran errands and came home. He is still here.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
H came over and yes, were we (the girls and I) shocked!
At first, he came across as being very irritable. We just scrambled around and did out own thing. S18 was here for awhile so he and his dad were hanging out on the patio.
I eventually went out there to give H $$$ he had asked me to get from his unemployment account (I am the only one with access to it as he gave me the card, etc.) so I went out and gave him the money.
He seemed to have settled down since when he first arrived.
The entire time, I was either on the computer or watching the Steelers game.
He did come in a short while later and started watching the game.
Then me and the girls went out. I had to take D16 and her friend to a church meeting, while D15 and I went to the store as she needed to buy some items.
We came home and he was still here.
He left about 8PM and when he did, I don't think he knew what to do. He told me he was coming over on Tuesday and I just said ok and goodbye. I did not kiss him. I think it threw him, how should I say, "off track" as we usually kiss goodbye. He was nervous around me somewhat.
I am okay, really I am.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Of course he's nervous. He's not sure just how you are going to react to him being around. He's got to find a way to fix things and he knows you've had enough. You did some very nice 180's which threw him through a loop.
Hang in there. He's got some talking to do in the next few weeks. He's got to get it out there about what's going on in his head.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi MWG, I am amazed how patient you are. I don't think I could do what you are doing, and I do hope for you that your H will see one day what a super wife he has.
Hi MWG, I have been reading in here for only a few months...I have read where you have been so patient and loving with your husband.but I have to agree with snodderly.He has to have some sort of boundaries.you have been so patient with the sitch but You dont deserve such treatment any longer... You know I am with you 100% when it comes to standing,but setting boundaries doesnt mean you have stopped standing...it has been way too comfortable for him to do as he pleases..
I know God will bring you peace and real joy one day but in the meantime it is now your turn....you have paid long enough and have stood by him long enough...now it has to be your WAY OR THE HIGHWAY.
Hi MWG, I have been reading in here for only a few months...I have read where you have been so patient and loving with your husband.but I have to agree with snodderly.He has to have some sort of boundaries.you have been so patient with the sitch but You dont deserve such treatment any longer... You know I am with you 100% when it comes to standing,but setting boundaries doesnt mean you have stopped standing...it has been way too comfortable for him to do as he pleases..
I know God will bring you peace and real joy one day but in the meantime it is now your turn....you have paid long enough and have stood by him long enough...now it has to be your WAY OR THE HIGHWAY.
Hi MWG, I have been reading in here for only a few months...I have read where you have been so patient and loving with your husband.but I have to agree with snodderly.He has to have some sort of boundaries.you have been so patient with the sitch but You dont deserve such treatment any longer... You know I am with you 100% when it comes to standing,but setting boundaries doesnt mean you have stop standing...it has been way too comfortable for him to do as he pleases..
I know God will bring you peace and real joy one day but in the meantime it is now your turn....you have paid long enough and have stood by him long enough...now it has to be your WAY OR THE HIGHWAY.God will not hold this against you you have done everything the Lord has asked of you....been obedient...prayed..read the word of God...went to church.treid everything but he is still sitting on the fence to this day....
I wish you well MWG... you are the bomb in my eyes wish your husband could see you in that light I pray that he will very very soon... you have encouraged me since I came here... and I want what you want and that is for your husband to come home...
5 yrs. is a long time to have to wait....I am not saying give it up I know you never will, but dont make it so easy for him God's peace be wtih you...
