Young, confused, and unhappy... MLC???

[FitChik]

I do not believe he's always been this way. His dad died about a year ago. He also joined the army a year ago, which has been a major stressor for both of us! He went through a D 4 years ago which I believe he still has unresolved issues from.

He grew up poor and parents never involved. He never heard the words ILY from them. He was the only one in his family to get an education and move away from their hometown (has 5 older siblings). He is very independent b/c he had to be. (Says he doesn't NEED anyone when I offer to support him or when a friend pisses him off). He has 2-3 male friends he keeps in contact with (both older, like father figures).

His first M lasted 3 yrs. He says he gave all the effort (including MC) but she wouldn't change or work on their M, so it ended. Past few years, lots and lots of work. Then he decided to join the army and we met.

We hit it off right away. Seems like when reality hit him that things wouldn't go on like a dream, he bailed. He says he got scared, said our relationship would fail, doesn't want to keep putting time & energy into our R since it will fail (while deployed for a year) and wants a D.

He is a hard worker, motivated, a thinker, can be pessimistic, can be a dreamer, goofy, passive aggressive when something makes him mad, aggressive when he has to stand up for his side. He does seem unhappy with life

Now he is urging me to sign the D papers b/c he is an "old man" and if he is ever going to married again and have a shot at things, he needs to move on.

I am taking care of myself, trying to be patients, and praying for a miracle!