Let me sit on it for awhile Breakaway. I want the marriage to work. It's not going to work as long as he's drinking to excess, which probably will happen if he's drinking a little. He is determined to be able to have a drink if he wants to. If I make it a dealbreaker at this point, this marriage is already doomed. I might as well file for divorce now.
I don't know how to find a medium.
Mel
I was never implying your marriage can't work because of this. I'm working on making my marriage work and I don't foresee my H quitting drinking. But I am learning a lot more about how it's affecting things, and how I will choose to handle it. And how I'm going to help my kids handle it. Because this affects them as much as me.
