You know, I really can't think of a downside.... what's the worst thing that can happen? We get D'd? Except for the money, and the kids (ok that's a big except) what's different about that? Upside? Maybe she would realize that things cannot stay like this, and that she is responsible for her part of it. I had hoped the letter would help push that, and I think it might have, for ten minutes or so! So, I think I do need to follow up, with some more pressure of some sort. At some point I am going to have to answer the question of whether there is anything she can do, or we can do, that will make me absolutely sure I want to try. I'm not there right now.
