(((((Mishka, cookie, L_L))))) What have I decided? All I can say is that I have decided that it has to change. I don't think I know how much change is enough change, or how fast it has to be. Intention to change would go a long way!
Cookie, I could use some color!
L_L, here is the thing.... She doesn't want out, she just doesn't want to be married. But she wants the security for herself, and especially for the kids of being married. That doesn't leave me in a great spot. She isn't going to leave. I don't want her to leave, but I don't want her to stay like this. But whatever happens, I am going to have to drive it, because she is content with the status quo. All of the evidence suggests that she will (consciously or not) drag her feet as much as possible to prevent anything from changing.
