I would say it definitely means something better is coming for YOU, not him!
I'm going to add more to this too (in hopes of cheering you up!)-and tagging onto what Nik posted. (Great examples Nik, I'd be interested if you had any thoughts on my thread.) You're first and most important in this picture! (I'm first in my picture and so is everyone else on the BB). That means that you are the amazing one in the situation, you are a woman any healthy man would be happy to have. There is no other ow that would be a 'better' person than you. The WAS's, the people who give up on Rs without really learning or trying hard are never going to find some amazing person- they will be finding someone at their level and it may not last that long. This is all about your life, not his. If a time comes when he's not in the picture, its HIS LOSS, not yours. I believe that you would ultimately find a man that is as good as you are if you choose to be done with h. I think this is what the statements 'better' and 'for the best' ultimately mean. Not that D is great, but that if you have a @#% partner who refuses to commit to your R or work on your R and only cares about himself, and one that insists on a D, that something else more precious is out there available to you. You don't always know what shape or form it's coming in, but it does happen. It could be your h with a new attitude and new lease on life or it could be someone new who has no problems and loves you deeply. And you didn't just brush off your R in hopes of 'better', you've stuck it out for SO long. It's like opening your eyes to the rainbow of life that really exists, when you've previously just been stuck with junk. I hope this helps. I am really up and down lately too (and I have to keep bringing myself back up) Hugs.
DBer since 2003 D - 3/24/09 GAL and DBing for myself
