Feeling...empty. # 53

[mishka422]

WOW. K, you have gotten some invaluable insight here from Deb and Ian. I hope that you will read it and absorb it.

Honestly, I feel Ian is correct in thinking that you have already decided to let your M go but aren't willing to flat out say that as it will look like giving up. Maria, you have to say enough is enough at some point. Both of you need to grow a lot for yourselves. Maybe you aren't going to be able to do that as long as you are together. Maybe you can. Only you can decide that.

The changes must be for you, not for your H and what he expects of you. If he can only love you if you act a certain way and that way is NOT you, then is it really love or control? The same goes for you. Is there only one way that you would accept your H? If so, why? What was so different about him when you fell in love with him that is now changed to something unacceptable?