scrappy, Mlcers do not always have an op in their lives while in crisis. Some will use work, drugs, alcohol, gambling, internet, etc., for self-medication. I know of one mlcer who had visions of meeting ow and going on from there, but it never materialized and he put all of his focus on his work. That was his "op" so to speak.
Give him plenty of space and time to work through is issues. While is out floating around....keep the focus on you and your life. There's nothing you can do to help him, except be a friend during all of this.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
