Standing on the Edge

[MsMelancoly]

Hey native, It seems such a common theme that our WAS, has so many of their own issues to work out, by themselves.

The rape issues must be extremely difficult to deal with and has probably affected her self esteem & self worth. Do you think you were her rescuer, father type figure or protector? Have you ever read any books about dealing with rape? I read a few books on depression & male depression. It was insightful to read how my H may be feeling & how he sees the world so differently.

I too, think that my H's IC isn't helping him. Maybe it is - just not with M. But no matter what IC one sees they have to face their fears & want to change. I think it's so true that IC is built around doing what "feels" good & not what is right. I went to see a M counselor last year (before I found DB). It was helpful about learning about myself.

Your W probably has so many emotions, she doesn't know what to do. Could some of her hurtful comments be directed at men in general??

Stay strong!!