I promise, I am not trying to beat you up about this.
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I REALLY am WORKING
You are so right, it IS work. It doesn't come naturally to withdraw from someone you love. It feels wrong, the exact opposite of what your heart wants to do. But your heart has led you over the last year (just like mine did), and it didn't work. I didn't see it til my xH was completely gone. I am trying to prevent this from happening to you.
H will not see any changes until you actually change your behavior. In your head, you have 'changed', but contacting him yesterday, H said "Same old TOH, giving me grief".
In his mind, he came, did his duty/part by pushing the snow. That was more than he did the week before, right? But, he still got flack for it, from you.
