How did they return...I understand what you are asking now, but unfortunately, I don't have an answer for you.
Breakaway will love this response. Even though he drank, and at times it was bad...IT WASN'T AS BAD AS OTHER PEOPLE, so it must be okay. I know that's not really true, even though I partially feel that way. Yeah, he puked down the side of the bed and it was gross. Yeah, there were times he completely ignored me.
Wait, I know why they (the feelings) returned. Because he quit drinking for three years. Then, when he went on this tour to Iraq, he called home and told me he felt like he could have a drink again. But that didn't cause me to have the affair. I was overwhelmed with everything I was doing. And I was hurt and acting out like a two year old. But for the last three years, life has actually been pretty good. Definitely not as bad. But now that I've had the affair, he is able to justify his drinking with "Well, you're the one that had the affair, so you are the one with the problems and now I see my drinking was never the problem. You were." Of course that is not verbatim and it was certainly not as vicious as that sounds. But it wasn't far from it and keep in mind that he was hurt and angry when he said it.
I don't feel like you were putting me on the spot. It's everyone's job here (I feel, maybe wrongly) to be honest and forthright when asked a question because we are ALL trying to help each other out of the he!! we are in.
Good luck to you.
Mel
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
