CL--I think you're right to give it time, D is not (or shouldn't be) an escape. But oh, I wish she wouldn't behave like that. The idea that "What's yours is mine and what's mine is mine"...won't ever equal a loving, intimate union.
And I have to say, that when she starts going off on you about not giving her children...the puppy sitch says A LOT. Kids are just as inconvenient and challenging! I know you already know that. Just had to say it.
Keep working on your resolutions...perhaps a large amount of positive water under the bridge will be enough to influence her. If not, you're certainly making progress on implementing your intentions, and that is a good thing.
