Is the answer blowing in the wind?

[Loving_Life]

So, I'm afraid if I walk away completely, he will forget about me and say "well, I didn't really want to lose her, but I'm not going to get too bummed out. I guess I'll just find someone else." On the face of it, I guess that's the "right" way to feel-- 'sucks to lose someone, but oh well...next!' but I have a hard time embracing that philosophy.

I think that since your H is still interested in getting together with you/ chatting,etc, there isn't much of a chance that he's going to immediately forget about your R or disappear. He also does seem to be a little thrown when you show the tiniest hint of moving on- Do you see that? So the GAL, combined with sticking up for yourself a little more should be a powerful combination that may help your M.
I agree completely w. Nik- I'd love to get your comments on my thread