Well, Whatis got into it yesterday! D14 phoned her mother in tears because I refused to allow her to go shopping with a friend today. Earlier in the week I had told D14 about plans for Saturday night and if she had any plans she'd like to make e.g. sleepover at a friends etc she needed to firm them up and let me know ASAP as I needed to find somewhere for her and D11 to hang out while I was out. So, yesterday night at 11 pm D14 tells me she wants to go shopping with a girlfriend, who lives out of town. This would require some planning for rides etc so I said NO. I reminded her that I had given her ample time to advise me of what she'd like to do and she chose not to do so, she'd made her bed and now she could sleep in it. I was not going to jump through hoops to make her shopping trip happen, it was too late. So, she phoned her mother and, of course, left out the part about me giving her ample time to firm up her plans. STBX phoned me this morning asking what had happened as D had phoned her in tears describing how unreasonable I was being. I told STBX what happened and she said that she could bail D out but wouldn't because she needed to learn a lesson in regards to proper planning. So we both agreed that if D wanted her friend to come in from out of town that it could be arranged this week for next weekend, she could stay with STBX. I think STBX was happy not to be the bad guy this time and to actually have her D phoning her to complain about me! Fun times.
