Am I eternally hopeful or in denial....?

[Silent Chrleader]

I would absolutely adore a party with the girls!! Too bad we're spread out all over the country! Like I said before.....we need to do a DB convention or something.....

[sandycay]

I think we are close. You can contact me thru the alternate Universe. I live in the Harbor

[glamgirl]

SC you sound good. Loving unconditionally is tough, but you are on the right path.

Dinner with fam and h sounds good. It's nice you can still remain connected. Maybe your h does need time to think. N

Remember NO pressure.

[Silent Chrleader]

In the Harbor? Isn't that a little cold?? {Sorry I couldn't resist!}

I try to pop you an e-mail this weekend, sandycay, assuming my cable gets hooked up today.....

[Silent Chrleader]

Hi, Glam!

Today I am feeling really good and not having a problem at all with "unconditional". I even teased H last night and told him if he wanted a "conjugal visit" don't hesitate to call, because I'm beginning to feel deprived! I said so long as he was not "active" with someone else and thereby exposing me to something, I wouldn't spit in his eye! He just looked at me funny and said "OK, I'll keep that in mind." I said, "What can I say, I'm in a really weird mood tonight!" He smiled a little and said "That's obvious." I know my attitude definitely caught him off guard and he wasn't sure how to handle it, but I think throwing him off kilter is not such a bad thing!

Anyway, I am really going to keep no expectations. I told H we were going to dinner tomorrow and he was welcome to join. He said he didn't have any other plans. So, unless something else comes up, I guess he'll be there. But if he doesn't, that's OK too.

And he definitely needs to think. I did break DB and asked him if OW is now officially not doing any more work for him. She was doing some things still on part time basis while he found another assistant. He said yes, that OW was officially gone, but that he would likely receive an invite to her son's 2nd birthday party. I asked if he would go, and he said "Probably not." I left it at that.

I did get to meet his new assistant. She seems really nice and happily married. And H says that she is the absolute best assistant he has ever had. (so that would include OW)

I'm feelin' good!!

[glamgirl]

You do sound good SC, but keep the expectations at zero and please don't ask your h anymore about ow. He is going to do what he is going to do regardless of how you feel or what you say, so does it really matter that you ask?

I know all so hard, but I have learned to do a ton of zipping of the lips through all of this and just focus on the positives.

My h did say during C that for every negative about Glam there is at least 10 positives. Wow, that made me feel good. Now if h would just NOT focus on the negatives.

[Silent Chrleader]

10 positives for every negative? Yea, Baby!!!

So, what's he complainin' about? Geez!

He's lookin' for a custom fit in an off the rack world! That's the problem!!!

(((((GG)))))

[smartcookie]

Hey, I'm in the same time zone as you.

I admire & respect how you're handling things. My heart goes out to you with S17.

Hugs

[sandycay]

sounds good SC

[glamgirl]

SC you just made me laugh with the "Custom fit". Boy does that fit my h exactly. It's kind of like he is expecting model perfection which is not how life or people are and when he sees I don't fit that perfection he goes down the negative path.

I am hoping through C though that my h will come to this realization, but only time will tell.

He even said to the C this week that we hardly fight. Yeah h that is true, then what is keeping you away?