LIS, I think you are good at being calm, almost too good maybe. I think you should work on your boundaries, being assertive,and not being passive or aggressive. I read a book my C suggested on the Verbally Abusive relationship (Patricia Evans) and it said that people like your W tend to see people as weak if they aren't assertive, not nice or good people as you or I or most of us think. They have a different way of thinking, and I think they lose respect if you're not careful to set and hold firm to your boundaries.
