The changes you've made in yourself must be true and consistent. The changes you've made must be permanent and for you. You can never revert back to the "old" Jeff ever again. If the changes are only to get her back, she will know it.
Allow her to talk, listen and validate. No questioning her about what she's talking about, the house, relationship, etc.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
