It's Complicated! Part 3

[Dawn of Hope]

Now h starts telling me h wants to get off the AD's altogether.

What he said is that he has been very depressed and it's as if he is paralyzed. He said he just lays down and only his eyes move and he just thinks and sleeps.

Glam,
Do you see the problem here? Actually, there are several problems. First, if he feels this way when he is ON the AD's, how could he possibly feel better if he gets OFF of them?? Second, if he has been on the same AD meds for a while (six weeks or more) and he is feeling like this, then he definitely needs to see his doctor, because he needs to switch AD's or he needs some other sort of treatment for depression, since what he is on is not working. I'm not a doctor, but as you know, I have a long history of depression, and I'm presently on my 7th type of AD's.

I will also warn you that he may try to hoodwink the doctor into believing he feels better than he actually does...this might not be something he does deliberately, but it is human nature for depressives to try to hide how bad we feel on certain occasions, even with those who are there to help us. So you might consider what steps you can take to offset this without making things worse between you by going behind his back or whatever...I can think of half a dozen possibilities, such as involving your MC, speaking to the doctor yourself, and so on.

It is not entirely a picnic to be on AD's--there are a number of potential irritating side effects--so I can empathize with his desire to get off of them. But if he is undergoing some kind of treatment that makes him feel better, he will stick with it.

Take care of yourself, Glam...sounds like the two of you are slowly but surely making progress!

Peace,
Dawn