Quote: I'm doing my best to "get a life" thing is somehow my life does depend somewhat on h as we do have young children...for example tonight I have a meeting with my ambulance co...my getting there on time depends on if h can get himself home on time for me to leave...should it be that way?
Hmmm...I hope you didn't misconstrue my post, as I really wasn't implying that you were not "getting a life." I was simply prefacing my later statement. Sorry...
Quote: would be nice though to have some clue as to what's going on in his mind.
ya and I'm supposed to believe it was just an ea?????
You know, I have two thoughts on this (total speculation): 1) Either he only did have an EA, and thus, he doesn't feel like he really did anything wrong (as we know with men it's the physical part). Even my W has downplayed EAs...much to my disagreement. So, he likely doesn't feel like he has to atone for very much here... 2) He did have a PA and feels so guilty about it that he doesn't want to talk about it, can't deal with it, afraid it will set the two of you back, and is afraid that you would D him as a result. Given your "fiery attitude," could he have the impression that you'd D him if it was physical?
Quote: "oh where did you read that"
Yes, it's still insecurity. I would say that he likely interprets what you're saying as a judgement...and thus, feels like he needs to defend himself or "prove" you wrong.
