Jeff, wow you're over 9000 posts. You're definitely the guy with the long term experience here.

I'm working on a theory. It is;

One person in the couple wants to work on things, make them better, put in the time, effort and energy to make it an awesome relationship. Searches the internet for interesting articles & forums for growth & learning.

The other person doesn't want to. They want to complain that the their spouse is never satisfied.

What do you think ?

Could I have a hot buttered rum. It's freezing here.

Hugs

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.