ok how can I respond to theese posts without the typcial pessimistic got an answer for everything LL tone??? suppose I'll just state the facts and see how it goes from there.
jethro...
I could accept the dear in the headlights bit if h's time spent with ow AFTER my finding out about her was just a prolonged goodbye...but it wasn't...he continued to see her 3x a week and lied to me about it...and THEN moved out for over six months all the while stating he wasn't comming back..that he had feelings for this woman before we even married...that he never felt that way with me (and yes I do believe him) bla bla bla and a whole lot of other crap. he continued to speak to her even after he started to come home...I'm not sure he even has stopped talking to her..point is it really doesn't matter.
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so...ll...what is h trying to communicate to you by bringing this up? did you ask what his concern was? is he feeling as though YOU may be still not IN the m?
h knows that I am not fully here...I've stated it to him many different times...his response is it's fine...I can let that wall down little by little and take as long as I need....gee that's comforting.
what does his statement show me? it's typical of him...he uses such places, people etc...to assume that what I say and feel is a result of someone else's thoughts...his thinking is that this place invades my thoughts...much to the contrar' if not for this place..I would not have taken him back.
Quote: ah, LL, what if this football season you were his biggest cheerleader? Does he spend more than a few hours a week at it?
he will be on line...on phone with buddie....going to the games....and more likely than not going to buddies house to watch the games...or expecting me to keep the kids out of his way so he can watch them.
Quote: I know my h has planned his entire sunday around the game ... I think I'm getting him and his friend takeout from someplace! Hey, I'm gonna have one happy h after the game, though
been there done that...who knows h may not even plan on being home to watch the game...so what will I have after the game??? one tired h.
