Hey LL...gotta make this quick, so forgive the hastiness.
Quote: so h may not have had multiple affairs...but when the ow was first disclosed and our first calm talks of d occured..we then started a "recovery", but h lied and continued seeing ow, then left...so now I am left feeling a tad duped and not sure of myself or my feelings.
Given many people's situations (including mine), this is very common. My W likened her reaction to my first discovery as "a deer in headlights." She swore she'd never contact OM again, but what did she do? She went over to his house to say goodbye. I think our Ses need time to work through this process and say farewell in their own way.
You caught your H offguard and he likely felt he had little choice at that point...and he had yet to finish this "process." I'm not excusing his behavior, but he didn't have multiple As...although I know exactly what you're saying...
Sorry...there's more I wanted to say, but I have to run. I hope what I said made sense...and wasn't too hasty.
