Hey, Cinco-funny your sis gave you the condom lecture. When my oldest son was 14, knowing his dad would NEVER say anything more than either "Don't think about it" or "Don't do it till you're married" I took the opportunity when we happened to be alone to give him what has been known as "The Drugstore Speech" ever since. Found out later from D that he was APPALLED, EMBARRASSED and ANGRY that I mentioned it and thought he'd ever do such a thing. MMMMMMMM, yeah, right. I thought I did a pretty good job of being realistic in telling him even tho he knows what's right, etc. that someday he'll REALLY REALLY wanna do it & if after thinking it over, he still wanted to go ahead, he needed to visit the drugstore first so there wouldn't be a new person in the world 9 mo. later. (condensed version)
This legendary famous/infamous talk has come up in so many funny ways over the years. Younger son had a pal who had a pregnancy scare at 15 w/14 yr old girlfriend. I said, "What!? Didn't you give him the drugstore speech?" Actually he had! The doofus kid just didn't bother to go.
Same son & pals were going to girl's house to swim w/her friends. Parents on premises, furnishing lunch. Gave him $ to get pop & snacks to bring as a polite guest. He & buds said they needed a few extra $$. Why? "We need to stop at the drugstore." They were 14 at the time. Verrry funny. Goof on your mom as much as possible. I laughed, but they still got the hairy eyeball.
I'm into yet another book and again dopamine is discussed. Its the brain chemical that makes you crazy for your new girlfriend, wife, etc. Its also what drives you when sex is hard to get from someone you desire. Hmmmm, yet another thing to wish came in a bottle. Could slip it in their coffee LOL. Only prob w/books, they mention 2 more .. it multiplies. The best part is finding out we're not ignorant. Its that so much of this info is relatively recent.
Losing a child at any age is the worst. Takes away part of your future. I had an older friend yrs ago who had 4 kids but also had 3 miscarriages and 1 stillbirth. It was before the test for being RH negative & nothing could be done. She was pretty religious & philosophical about it, just glad she had 4 healthy ones. Don't know that I could have handled that.
Since you are a musician, have you thought about using your current state as inspiration for playing blues? Not trying to be funny or hurt, just wondered.
I hope the networking helps. What kind of work does your W do? I'm glad not to be job hunting in this recession. Did it in '82. One co. sold, next one closed. At least we both never got laid off at the same time.
Have a good weekend. Jam your blues away Jayce
me: 66 H:60 2 adult sons 2 grandsons adult daughter deceased 5/05 me:Part time trainer H: plant suprv.