Hope, Thanks for stopping by. You mentioned that to me earlier about Plan A/B and I have been thinking about it a lot lately. As a matter of fact I printed it from the website yesterday. I know there is also a book, have you ever read it?
Right now I'm trying not to rock the boat too badly. I need to get my sales tax paid on my car!
Also a problem I have is my daughter's ballgames that she cheers at. Sometimes we ride together especially if it is an out of town ballgame. Even if we don't ride together at the home games, he will come sit with me.
Last night he told me that he was going hunting with some friends tomorrow. I said how did it come about that so and so is going with ya'll? He said he called me Wed. night out of the blue and they decided they would go hunting.
Later I asked if he wanted to do something Friday night, he said maybe but it can't be much because I'm getting up early for hunting. Then about 30 minutes later he told me that when this friend that called asked if he wanted to go to dinner Friday night. I just looked at him and said okay. He then said "Well you know how so and so is. He is not very dependable so who knows if he'll even call back". Part of me thinks he just made that part up to avoid going out with me tonight. I did not say anything though, I just kept my mouth shut.
I'm like you until he gets rid of the secretary/OW, I know we can't fully move forward. I really don't think they are seeing each other outside of work anymore. He is at home when DD17 goes to see DD20 most of the time.
One good thing I did learn today is the OW was at a local Honky Tonk on News Yeas Eve. H and I were out of town for New Year's Eve with two other couples. Maybe she was out prowling for her latest victim. H's cousin's friend was playing in a band there. The cousin and his wife went to watch and saw the ho was there.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Maybe you will get lucky and some other fool unlucky and let her sink her nasty hooks into him.
Did you have a good time on New Year's? I think the more times you can get together like that the better. Maybe even figure out a way to be busy when he drops by. Even if you have to "act as if" you are going somewhere. The less available you are, the more interested/closer he seems to get. It could be worth a go.
kat ps, and how is the new car?
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Yoyo, the name of the book is surviving an affair by hartley. Outlines Plan A/Plan B. Also there is a website marriagebuilders that you could find out additional information.
I am sad today. My H dropped off the dreaded D papers. Interesting he is using the OW's atty that she used for her divorce 3 years ago. I hate this. I am seeing atty next week. this is not what I want but I have no choice and with H following the OW around by the nose we have no chance.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
Maybe you will get lucky and some other fool unlucky and let her sink her nasty hooks into him.
Did you have a good time on New Year's? I think the more times you can get together like that the better. Maybe even figure out a way to be busy when he drops by. Even if you have to "act as if" you are going somewhere. The less available you are, the more interested/closer he seems to get. It could be worth a go.
kat
ps, and how is the new car?
A girl can certainly hope can't she?
New Years Eve was okay. We went to the casino. We broke about even so I guess that's better than losing a lot. We ate a really good buffet. It is Paula Dean's restaurant. The one that always says "Hey Ya'll it's Paula Dean" on the food network. It had some really country cooking. You wouldn't believe how many food stations there were. And the desserts! Yummy!!!
Are you feeling better?
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Off and on. I will be fine and then out of the blue it will hit again. Not as bad as last Friday but just headache, sinuses and feeling blah. I want to curl up in bed with a blanket and let someone take care of me...uuuhhh, no one here that does that. The kids do try and you gotta love that but they aren't too good with the hot tea, soup thing.
My Dad brought over 3 movies he recorded for me so I will be watching those this weekend if I don't end up sleeping and then bookclub on Sunday. This next book is a true story based on a serial killer and the Chicago's world fair. I think it is called Sin in the White City but I will let you know if you want to read along.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hi Yoyo, left you a message on my sitch. Glad you were with your H on New Years. That was a tough evening for me. I went to a casino with older D and her friend. At midnight I could hardly take it but we have to get through it.
Is the OW younger than H? Can't believe she is trying to stick around all this time. Is your state a fault state? You might have to do a strong 180 at this point to get him off the fence. Look for that book. Take care and thank you for praying for me.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
Giggle for the day...I couldn't resist posting it!
Divorce vs. Murder
A nice, calm and respectable lady went into the pharmacy,walked up to the pharmacist, looked straight into his eyes and said, 'I would like to buy some cyanide.' The pharmacist asked, 'Why in the world do you need> cyanide?' The lady replied, 'I need it to poison my> husband..' The pharmacist's eyes got big and he exclaimed, 'Lord have mercy! I can't give you cyanide to kill your husband. That's against the law! I'll lose my license! They'll throw both of us in jail! All kinds of bad things will happen. Absolutely not! You CANNOT have any cyanide!' The lady reached into her purse and pulled out a picture of her husband in bed with the pharmacist's wife. The pharmacist looked at the picture and replied, 'Well now, that's different. You didn't tell me you had a prescription.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
