You hit it on the head. He is pissed at himself, at the situation, not at me. He is the one who cheated on me, left, came back, left, came back.
I am the one who was too needy at times, admittedly, but who has learned from my mistakes and never abandoned the marriage. I have been fighting for our marriage this entire time and he knows it. I have been faithful and loved him even when he was unlovable and he knows it.
I don't know what the discomfort is about. At Retro when we did descriptive writing he said it was that irritating scalp-itching feeling....Each time he has come back he has wound up saying he is 'uncomfortable' in our home.
But I know that I am NOT the problem. The problem is, I don't think he can pin down exactly what the problem IS...
