Nooo I didn't mean driving back. That would have been nuts, sounds like! I meant trying the "Game Over" 180.
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The stopping smoking/drinking/etc is new. (Previously he had no interest AT ALL in stopping.) Also, dropping some of the resentment and anger is new. Saying 'no sex' is new. Going to counseling is new. (Adding that I recognize he has not yet *done* these things with the exception of starting to let go of the anger and resentment. However, even speaking of such things is all new.)
True, I guess... though like you I'll believe it when I see it.
What isn't new and is the part that struck me: - He's doing what it takes to keep you hooked - He's practically emotionally abusing you with his "indecision" (and, you're continuing to allow it) - You're not valuing yourself - He's not "winning" you - he doesn't have to - You're letting yourself (continue to) be strung along by words
sorry
Like Amy said - it doesn't matter what he wants! It's time to think about what YOU want.
Do YOU want an R where the other person "guesses it's OK" if you hold their hand?????
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
sorry
