Had a day off today so I thought that I would clean the house She got home and was impressed. I asked her how her day was, and went about my business. She came down stairs looking a little sheepish and asked me what I was doing tonight I said, hadn't thought about it, just going to the gym. She told me about her plans to go out with the girls I replied great have fun. I want her to have fun with her girl friends.
She said she would be running around tomorrow, I expected her to be busy because of last night I am sure she doesn't want to get over whelmed again so hanging out with her friends should be a good thing. I just have to not worry about were she is going.
the reason why she was sheepish is because she bought some new ski boots even though she has racked up her visa. She told me that she was cutting her card up. She has some scars on her leg that are painful with rental boots so she needed ones that fit well. Instead of yelling at her for buying them (as in the past), I said hey they I am glad you got boots that don't hurt your scar, that's important. She seemed to respond well, I am glad she acknowledged on her own that she needed to cut up her credit cards.
She thanked me for not yelling at her about the boots, and left for the evening. We are still going skiing on Sunday!
My other issue is that I don't want to seem boring by not going out with friends but I felt like just vegging tonight after along week at work. I am going out tomorrow night,and will be going away to my parents for a couple of days after we ski so that she give her some time apart not to get over whelmed.
Anyway can't rush or get greedy about spending time with her, but these are some good steps. She was in a good mood today after our talk and spending time together last night. This is good because before she would be distant and cranky after wards.
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June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
