Sophie, Put your faith and trust in God. You wanted your h to spend some quality time w/the children and it appears that may be happening w/him coming to get them. You've got to let go of some of the control a bit and allow him to work things out w/the children. Yes, he's been an absent parent in so many ways, but you can't hold on to the rope any tighten than you have. Drop it a bit and let's see how this evening goes.
If you are concerned about the electricity, call the electric company for verification about the payment and to get a confirmation that it will not be cut off. You cannot rely on him to do anything when he should.
Drop your expectations to zero and please, please start investigating things for yourself and not relying on him. Checking up on him makes you his "mother figure" in his eyes.
Expectations = Zero Checking things for yourself = Sophie doing great! Trusting the children w/him = Sophie trust in God and drop the rope!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
