It's a tricky one, because then MWG would be a prisoner outside her home rather than a prisoner in it. Have you thought this through enough because you sometimes need him to drive you to work or are you going to make son ask him for the lifts. Before you would go and sit with him outside maybe now you could just stay indoors and maybe he wouldn't come in. Who knows what will happen, as it stands nothing will change because he is obviously quite content with this arrangement. It suits him, depressed or not he is making the choices.It is not like he hasn't enough energy to just go with the flow because he quite clearly can say no and often has to yours and the kids requests. It seems he can't say no to his g/friend. So he is able to make choices just not the right ones or the ones you hope for. I am sure you will just keep on keeping on MWG, you carry him and the family. Did he contact his father yet? I wish I could see some positves after all this time-gosh I am certain you do too. Take care of you and speak from the heart, thats all you can do.
