Thanks for posting guys. There isnt any legal separation in my state. It goes right to divorce. It is a no fault state. So they make it very easy to get divorced. I am having a hard time filing.
My h told our son he was moving out on Tuesday and he left that afternoon. He then met me at the doctor for our son. He has health issues. Then he came and stayed here. I asked him why he is back. He said he wanted to ease into for our son. I said I think this is making it harder for both my son and I to move forward. He said he is leaving next week for good. He thought he was doing what was best for son. I left it at that.
I then had the long talk with him about how he handled him finally leaving. He apologized.
It is very difficult having him here. I think son is confused as well.
I couldnt help it, today, I lost it. I started crying.
My h works for home and he came up from downstairs and I said that I was scared of the future. That I have been with him since I was 19 and that 30 years is a long time. I said I was worried about our son as is his doctor. Son is extremely depressed and the therapist wants me to watch him carefully. My poor son has had such a tough life and this might be the straw that breaks his back.
I told h he has to be in son's life. That him being 2 hours away is going to make it difficult but he has to make a real effort to see son as much as he can. I said I would do what I could to make that easy for them both.
He said he appreciated that I have kept things friendly between us so that our s does not have to deal with us being unkind to each other.
I was crying and I said, I just want our son to be ok. He said he knows and he hugged me. I told him I know he has to leave. He should do that since that was the decision he made.
I think I will be a little better in some ways once he is gone for good. This back and forth is too much for me.
