(((Jeff))) thanks for the reassurance, it means a lot. I know that one can over think sometimes and come up with crazy stuff but I am still happy with my thoughts so that is a good sign. I forgot you lived in Lincoln. That is quite near my sister!
(((Mishka, R2C))) I grew up in London where I just didn't need to drive. When I first moved out here I started learning (and was quite good) but on one practise session some guy undertook me and ran me off the road into a ditch. It majorly shook my confidence. I can get around here with public transport but it is quite annoying especially if I need to go food shopping. On the plus side I walk a lot and enjoy it and know all the local bus drivers! lol. Even if I don't use the licence for a while, if I move back to London, at least I will have it and will have learnt on quiet roads that I know.
(((Dan)))I wanted to come back to your post. I don't really see how I can confront him. He has been gone a year and doesn't really talk to me enough to lie to me. I did send him that strong email saying I knew he had ow and got no response. If he lies to my face I will turn round and ask him not to lie as I am no longer afraid of walking on eggshells. I suppose the thing is we don't have children so really his business is his business as he no longer considers himself married to me. I know that he knows he is doing wrong otherwise he would be proud of his relationship and not be acting so guilty around me and be able to look me in the eye. Really I have no leverage to tell him to stop seeing her - in his eyes our relationship was over in Oct 2007, if not finally over in May 2008. Do you agree with my assessment? It does frustrate me that I am not making headway, I (for some crazy reason??!!) am not able to lose a tiny spark of hope but I am realistic. He most probably is one of the ones that Michelle W-D says is set in their decision to walk away.
