Just had some email activity from H, I was right, he is melting down again....(did I mention that earlier this week when I posted I predicted he would bail by Friday? )
Here is what he said,
I do not know how or when I will ever be comfortable there beside you. This is not going good or fine and I am stressing bad. I am not sure this is fixable.
I am so angry over this whole deal that I cannot stand it. I feel like complete [censored] today and know that I stand little chance of making me happy and any time soon it is draining.
On the bright side, he did say HE stood little chance of making himself happy. So at least he doesn't think it is my job to make him happy...
I was trying to feel out the topic of tonight's supposed 'discussion', so I had sent him a quick email saying that I noticed he seemed hostile this morning. That I wasn't angry at him for sleeping on the couch, just that I wanted to understand why he felt uncomfortable in our bed. And I repeated that I was glad we were communicating more openly as I thought that was necessary for things to work out with us.
[I did NOT mention quitting, giving up, etc because I was not going to give him an opening there. He can bring that up himself..]
So after I sent my message, I got the above in return. I just replied that I knew he hated it when I tried to 'fix' things, and that I understood I couldn't fix him anyway. But that I also knew he was wanting someone to listen to him and that I was ready and willing if he wanted to vent to me about his frustrations.
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